If affection could sanctify your marriage and maybe even
save it, would you give it?
Affection is needed in your marriage. It’s the glue. It’s the duct tape that weathers every
weather, whether you’re the giver or the receiver. It’s the tall drink of water after a 100
burpee workout.
Dictionary Definition of Affection: (noun) fond attachment,
devotion, or love.
But get this! It
comes from the root word, “affect,” which is a verb and verbs call for
action.
Dictionary Definition of Affect: (verb) to act on; produce
an effect or change in; to impress the mind or move the feeling of.
Putting aside W.H. Auden’s use of H E double hockey sticks
in the prior couplet, and his rather stereotypical life style of male, 1950’s Playwrights,
his very quotable quote from The More Loving One is incredibly beautiful
and biblical and needs to be framed in burlap with old mason jars full of
antique eyeglasses placed beside it.
That’s just said just right.
As with all love poetry, he ripped it off from Paul’s love
chapter in First Corinthians 13…
“Love…keeps no record of wrongs.”
Where in the Christmas pudding did we get the idea that the
giving and taking of affection involved math?
Keeping a record is the very act of equationing and graphing and
summifying which is math. Keeping a record is
why I hated my statistics class in college (Failed it. Took it again. Nailed it.) The whole unaffectionate notion that we are
keeping a running tally of how he has affected us so far that day in that way
or in that issue must now affect how affectionate you chose to be in
return?
That’s love math.
Love math is an affection-killer.
Love math is a marriage-killer.
If the losing of love math could sanctify(meaning to purify and make
free from sin), or maybe even save your marriage, would you give it? Would you whole-heartedly set aside your
equations and affect him with your affection?
You are already broken?
Dear sister, every time Jesus gives you a call to obey Him, He is
speaking to your future. All He says to
your past is, “go and sin no more.”
Every time you open your Bible it is to remind you that His plan is to
give you a FUTURE AND A HOPE.
Step into this new day with no brain calculator running your
love math receipt. You know all those
times you’ve handed the love math receipt to your husband? Those days are gone.
Am I speaking too metaphorically? I’m sorry.
I read a lot of poetry. This all
means love and give and affect him and lift his head and don’t grow weary of
doing good and never give only so he will give back and don’t give like a
martyr and love him and love him and love him and pour and pour and run over the affection.
Affect his day with your affection. Be the more loving one and don’t mind at all
when you are.